Most of us, most of the time, not only fail to see the lessons from a mistake, but actually strive to avoid them, ignore them, all to avoid admitting the mistake: to instead rationalize about excuses, find a scapegoat. Instead of learning, instead of making ourselves better for all time, we choose to feel better in the moment, permanently lessening ourselves by the amount of improvement such a decision costs. As a result, the few of us who face our mistakes to learn and grow leave the herd far behind. Then the sheep in the herd mutter to each other, rationalizing excuses for that too…
It’s hard to be empathetic when something costs a lot to replace.
The Dalai Lama once said, ‘when you lose, don’t lose the lesson’.
I believe it’s our biggest mistakes that make us who we are. It’s a test to see if we have the resilience and courage to stand up and say we made a mistake. I can’t bring it back, but I will learn.
They happen, but don’t give up. Use the lesson to grow stronger